A woman enters the wedding altar as a beautiful vibrant young girl but some years through and she finds herself hopelessly out of shape. Though most men also gain weight the problem is found more severely with women. Many a thought has gone into the reasons for this problem. There are 3 stages where a woman faces the danger of weight gain. The first being the stage as a newly married couple followed by the stage of child birth and thirdly when in mid life responsibilities soar and the husband gets busy meeting these ever growing needs and finds little time to provide the necessary emotional support his spouse yearns for. If a woman understands these she can steer herself off these pitfalls.

After marriage a woman’s priorities change and she finds lesser time for grooming herself. Then a happy married life makes her feel satisfied and secure Trying to please each other, either by cooking a lot or by eating all that is set before them, often results in weight gain in most cases. A newly married couple may also rely a lot on fast foods, which also helps in adding more pounds. This is a fairy tale period and some added kilos usually go unnoticed.

Now after the initial honeymoon period comes pregnancy, which spells more weight gain for many females. Wrong conceptions about the needs of a pregnant woman that she should eat double the amount of food to feed her and her child to be born and she should rest and relax more to preserve her energy for the time of labor add fuel to fire. An extremely obese pregnant woman usually needs to undergo a caesarean section, which further hampers her from shedding the additional weight.

Despite all these odds most women if supported by an understanding husband do try to gain their original poise. The biggest problem is when weight becomes part of the marital dynamic. "A man often wants his wife to stay fat even as he tells her to lose weight. For a woman to shed pounds successfully, she must take her weight out of the marriage. She must realize that her body is her concern.

Not all marriages turn out to be what the woman hoped for and some women find comfort in food. When wives put on a lot of weight look disheveled, it is almost always the fault of an inattentive or distracted husband. Their looks no longer mean anything to them, it's because they're married to someone who they don't think would notice anyway? Most women who live such solitary existence indulge in the pleasure of food. Whenever they feel tense, or are overcome with fear they seek comfort in eating. This gives them a false sense of relaxation. Since hunger is absent here, they resort to junk foods or snacks, which please their palate. This naturally adds bulk to the body. Once a woman drifts along this path it is very difficult for a revival to take place. Husbands here have an important part to play in helping the wife save her and ultimately the marriage.